We can not agree on a name
It's hard enough for a person to choose a name. If both parents have to agree, it gets even more complicated.
Imagine that you grew up with a fondness for a certain name and wanted to name your first child like that, but your partner categorically rejects that name. This is a disappointment that you first have to overcome. On the other hand, your partner may want to name their child for a footballer, and you do not like the sport at all.
In order to avoid disputes after the birth, it makes sense to create a list of possible names during pregnancy. (This is also very helpful in case your partner rejects all your suggestions, but does not contribute any ideas.) Make a column for girl names and one for boy names and leave room for the name with plus or minus to mark.
Write down your likes and dislikes on the list and encourage your partner to do the same. Keep the list of shortlisted names and keep them handy during pregnancy. Your preferences may change over time. If you have more than one favorite, you can use the others as second or third names. (See at the end: "We can not think of a middle name")
Friends and family offer their own suggestions
As soon as you reveal that you are pregnant, you will be overwhelmed with suggestions for baby names - especially if you already know the gender. Do not be too dismissive. It's good, in principle, for people to share with you and your baby. In addition, a name may be mentioned that you actually like and did not even think about. Write down suggestions that you like. That does not mean that you later have to pay special tribute to the person who brought the name into play.
Nobody likes the name we chose!
If you and your partner have agreed on a name that you can both live with, it can be very daunting if people around you do not respond enthusiastically to your choices. Some insensitive contemporaries may even say loud and clear that they do not like the name. Remember, this is a very personal decision and you will never be able to please everyone. You would not ask your friends and family for suggestions on the color of your bedroom.
The most difficult situation is when a family member does not like the name at all and you imagine that the relative will flinch each time the child is called by name. But whether you change your choice is solely your decision. Remember that people also learn to like something, and once your child is identified by name, everyone will quickly accept and get used to it.
The only sure way to avoid unwanted comments is to keep your choice until the baby is born. If you decide to give the name in advance, be careful not to take the comments seriously.
The name we like is very popular
Names are also a fad. If you choose a very popular name, your child may be one or many with that name in the class or circle of friends. For example, if you name your child Jonas, currently the most popular boy's name, then he may be one of five boys with that name in his class and be called by his middle name, his initials, or a completely different nickname. For example, a girl completed the entire first grade as Lena-S. and her classmates thought that was her real name.
If your heart still has a popular name on it, try to vary it a bit. Instead of Katharina maybe Kathalina or if you want to call your child Steffi, you could baptize Stefania instead of Stefanie.
We have a terrible name "inherited"
Some families have adopted certain first names that are inherited from generation to generation. They may sound weird and old-fashioned or you just do not like them. In some cultures, however, children are expected to be named after parents, grandparents or other relatives, whether you like it or not.
Both situations can be difficult. But there are ways to break with tradition while still maintaining family peace. For example, you could choose the named name as a middle name. If you use the traditional name as a nickname, you may opt for a more modern spelling or derive an original shorthand.
We come from different cultures
If you and your partner come from different cultures, you will probably try to connect the two, and it can make sense to your child if they get a sense of their origin. For example, if your husband is from Greece and you are German, you could choose a Greek name that can be pronounced well in German, like Clio or Anna. Or you could choose a name that also has a German equivalent, like Georg for Georgios for example.Or you can opt for a first name from one culture and the middle name from the other.
We can not think of a second name
Second names are not a must, but they help distinguish your child from other people who have the same first name and maybe even the same last name. It also gives your child an alternative if it is unhappy with his real name.
In addition, the middle name gives an opportunity to remember beloved grandparents or to use specific names from the respective families.
Perhaps you will find in your family tree an ancestor with an unusual, well-sounding name. In this way you can give your child a feeling for the family history. You can also honor your best friend, favorite teacher, great author or even your midwife.
We are running out of time
No need to panic, you have up to a month after the birth of the baby to register the name. Many newborns seem to be looking for their own name simply because it suits them. Maybe you look at your baby and think, "She looks like a Josephine" or "He's a Laurin." If in doubt, choose a name that you can shorten or that comes with its own nickname. (For example, Elizabeth can become Lisa, Betty, Elisa, or Liz, Sebastian to Bastian or Buddy, Friederike to Rike, Fiete or Freddy, Michael to Micha, Mike or Michel.) So you can keep the options open as yours Want to call a child and also your child later has different options.
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